I finished, not reading but skipping around the parenting memoir Stuck in the Middle With You by Jennifer Boylen. Parts were very interesting, especially several interviews with various people about parenting and gender, but the sections about taking care of young children bored me probably about as much as the author was bored while living them.
I was interested to see that the metadata for the book placed it in “Gay and Lesbian.” It’s quite a metaphysical question: Boylen was a woman in a man’s body married to a woman. She transitioned to become — I’m not sure of the correct term, physically a woman? — but stayed married to her wife. But I think she always considered herself straight, and both she and her wife make it plain that even though they stayed married they’re not lesbians. (This was quite fascinating in her previous book, She’s Not There, the way in which her sexual preference changed from women to men with the transition.) So unless you consider that she was a lesbian while being with her wife as a man — which I don’t think she herself does — there’s nothing gay about the book at all.
Perhaps this is why some people favor the word queer.