A Willful Woman…

Thoughts about books from a romance addict.

I Gotta Be Me

on March 27, 2015

(This post is not meant as a swipe at Jane; it’s really just about me and my own feelings.)

As a reviewer, I’ve been scared on the internet for a long time.  Scared of being doxxed. Scared of offending people. Scared of making enemies. It’s never stopped me reviewing honestly, but I can’t say it’s never shut me up, much though I wish I could. I’ve been sitting on a lot of my real opinions, so as not to rock the boat or offend people I care about.

And I finally reached a line I couldn’t cross. And the amazing thing is, now I don’t feel scared any more. I would much prefer not to be doxxed or harrassed, of course. But if I am doxxed people will discover… that I’m exactly who I’ve always said I am. Right now I can’t think of anything I’d rather be.

7 responses to “I Gotta Be Me

  1. L. W. says:

    Again, I have much respect for you. I look forward to reading your future reviews.

  2. Olivia Dade says:

    I’m glad to hear that in the midst of so much turmoil, you’ve found a place of peace, Willa. 🙂

  3. Jen says:

    I too have been increasingly scared about reviewing. In some ways it’s made me a better reviewer because I try to really think thinks through and examine potential arguments and offenses before I post anything, but in other ways it’s made it less fun for me because I’m always stressed about all those things you mentioned. And you wrote for such a high profile site that has *always* drawn lots of negative attention! I’m not nearly so high profile, so for now I’ll keep at it, but it has changed my habits pretty significantly. I am way, way less likely to review new authors, and I’m getting much choosier about accepting books from publishers. I’m glad your decision is removing some of the fear factor for you!

    • willaful says:

      Honestly, I was surprised at how very little negative attention I got at Dear Author. I guess I never wrote anything controversial enough to draw it out. But I often steeled myself for trouble and then nothing happened.

  4. SuperWendy says:

    I’ve been reviewing books online for a long time, and what Jen said. I used to think of 10 years ago was “wild west” – but since the Hale “thing” I’ve found the past year to be way more unsettled than I thought it ever would be. I think you can pinpoint a lot of this on the emergence of GoodReads and the shifting marketplace (shrinking retail spaces for books, bye-bye Borders etc.), but I don’t think that’s the whole answer (a decent chunk but not the whole). At this point, what can you do? I mean, really? Not much except keep true to yourself – which is what I’ve been trying to do. I figure at this point any content I have been spewing forth online speaks for itself (be that for good or for ill – I figure it’s a bit of both depending on who you ask!)

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