A Willful Woman…

Thoughts about books from a romance addict.

2023 Goals

on January 1, 2023

Okay, the biggest one: do not get emotionally involved in social media ever again.

(Which could seem a bit tricky, since I have my own mastodon instance — romancelandia.club, all romance fans welcome! — but actually, that is helping me grow a thicker skin and take things less personally.)

This is only partially about twitter, which I’ve been divorcing myself from since the muskrat’s offer was accepted months ago. It’s also about habitica, which has been my social media safe place for 8 years now, and can be no more.

Along with sadness though, is also some relief. I think my reading habits were being much too influenced by habitica and the challenges I loved there. And that I wasted time which could have been spent more productively. I did establish good habits but also let a lot of tasks go.

Which leads into the next goal: I want to stop playing numbers games about books. Read what I want to read and give myself time and space to read chunksters. Keep reading challenges minimal.

I’m still doing faranae’s challenges because they’re so fun and generally work with my regular reading, as well as making me stretch some in good ways. (https://harpgriffinbooks.wordpress.com/2023/01/01/happy-new-year-welcome-to-2023/). I also borrowed a habitica nonfiction reading challenge that makes me read more widely (mastodon hashtag #KIR for Keeping it Real.)

I’m on litsy now (https://www.litsy.com/web/user/willaful) and it’s so just overwhelming with challenges and games – to the point that I don’t think I’ll get too sucked in. But I love that there are readers there who enjoy the sorts of old fashioned books I do, so I’m going to allow myself some participation.

Mostly, I want to read and I also want to… get on with my life.

12 responses to “2023 Goals

  1. Miss Bates says:

    Wishing you success with every reading goal, but mostly for your life “getting on” to be full of wonder and joy!

  2. Faranae says:

    Yay! I’m happy my challenges made the cut! The number of books was really just to give it structure – feel free to count some nice chunky books in multiple prompts if it makes your reading life better. ❤

    Here's to getting on with life! May it be full of good books!

    • lawless523 says:

      Do you have access to a list of usernames for your instance? I created a Mastodon account under lawless523 way back when you left Twitter a few years ago, but I don’t remember the instance, and really don’t want to create another one.

    • willaful says:

      I think I’lll try to just not worry if I don’t finish it. Since there’s no longer any external rewards involved, it should be easier.

      Just gave away the last of my habitica gems…

  3. ” I want to stop playing numbers games about books. Read what I want to read and give myself time and space to read chunksters. Keep reading challenges minimal.” >> I fully support this statement! Not everything you read should be a challenge. I hope your new tack gives you the reading head space to enjoy your choices without the competitive edge.

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